Romantic love promises rescue.
Relational love asks more of us.
Much of what we call romantic love is shaped by fantasy, projection, and the hope that another person will make us whole. Relational love is grounded in reality, reciprocity, responsibility, and repair. It asks us to stay connected to another person without abandoning ourselves.
Love can be real and still fall into patterns that leave people feeling lonely, guarded, or worn out. You might be dealing with betrayal, growing apart, repeating the same arguments, or noticing that old ways of protecting yourself no longer help you live or love well.
I work with thoughtful, high-functioning individuals and couples who want to look beneath the surface. Together, we explore attachment, relational wounds, family history, protective strategies, power dynamics, and the ways culture shapes what we expect from love.
The work is not about becoming better at managing appearances. It is about becoming more able to tell the truth, stay connected to yourself, take responsibility for your impact, and make choices from a steadier place.
Relational love cares less about rescue than about reality. And it can be learned.
Couples Therapy + Intensives
How do two people stay in love without one of them disappearing?
If you’re feeling hurt by betrayal, stuck in silence, caught in the same argument, or simply sensing that something isn’t working between you, I help couples pause and explore what these patterns might be protecting.
Together, we look beyond the surface conflict to explore attachment, past hurts, family history, protective habits, and places where responsibility, effort, or power may have become uneven.
Some couples want to repair what’s been broken, while others are unsure whether repair is still possible. Weekly therapy gives us time to work with these patterns as they unfold. Relationship intensives offer a more focused space when the work needs greater depth, time, or momentum.
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We were ready to break up. Simone helped us understand and listen to each other again.”
Individual Psychotherapy
You’re not codependent. You were trained to abandon yourself.
Relational pain isn’t a personal flaw. It’s a systemic inheritance.
You may be capable, thoughtful, and self-aware, but still find yourself doing too much in relationships, doubting yourself, seeking love from unavailable people, or feeling guilty when you ask for what you need.
Together, we explore what sits underneath these patterns: attachment, family roles, past hurts, trauma, gender, culture, and the ways you may have learned to preserve connection by hiding parts of yourself.
This work is about releasing shame, grieving what has been lost, and building a different relationship with yourself, one that allows you to love deeply without shrinking, performing, or losing yourself.
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She helped me grieve the parts of myself I abandoned for love and start choosing myself again.”
Who I am
Hi, I’m Simone.
I am a psychotherapist, writer, and dedicated student of the complexities of love: how we connect, protect ourselves, lose and find ourselves, experience hurt, repair, and sometimes choose to let go.
My work has been shaped by psychotherapy, feminist thought, somatic and relational approaches, spirituality, and more than twenty years of supporting people through change. I bring warmth, curiosity, directness, and a willingness to name what is happening rather than hide behind therapeutic jargon.
I believe the relationship between therapist and client is vital. Therapy isn’t something I do to you from a distance; it is something we create together, paying attention to what happens between us and the patterns you bring into your life. In my writing, I also explore questions about love, identity, culture, grief, and the complicated work of becoming more fully ourselves.
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Writing + Field Notes
From Hell to Hunger: The False Relief of Emotionally Unavailable Men
When Escaping Abuse Leads to Another Kind of Abandonment. There’s a certain kind of ache that only survivors know. The ache of believing you’ve…
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Too Much or Not Enough: The Shame That Lives on Both Ends
How We Learn to Hide Our True Selves (And the Way Back Home). Have you ever felt like you talk too much? You cry…
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The Sacred Mirror: When Therapist and Client Share the Journey
Why survivor-therapists aren’t damaged goods- they’re seasoned guides. There’s something we rarely talk about in therapy circles, and definitely not enough in public: what…
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